Hey, They Call Me Connie…

Let’s talk about resistance, shall we? That silent enemy we all think we need to battle, the invisible force that makes us feel like we’re sinking deeper into frustration every time we try to claw our way out. We’ve been trained to believe that being stuck is a problem, something to solve. But what if, instead of fighting it, we just… let go?

I’ll never forget the first time I moved into my own place after coming back from Afghanistan. Terrifying? Yes. But I was ready for it. My younger sister had already gotten her own spot, and it gave me the push I needed to step into that next level of independence. Everything was fine—until my mom came over to help me unpack.

There was this one old box, full of random keepsakes, and she suggested, very casually, that I toss it out. Now, if you’ve ever moved into your first place, you know how sacred your stuff becomes. So naturally, I resisted, clutching onto that dusty box like it held all the secrets to my existence. And for weeks after, I was annoyed. Not at the box, but at the unsolicited advice. But, as much as it pains me to admit, my mom had a point.

That box? It wasn’t just a box. It was a symbol of me holding onto things that no longer served me. Sure, there’s a place for sentimentality, but sometimes the things we keep—whether they’re memories or old habits—end up cluttering not just our physical space but our mental and emotional space, too. I had to ask myself: If I’m holding onto this, what am I blocking myself from receiving? Cue Marie Kondo.

I know, I know. Letting go of control is a hard pill to swallow, especially when everything in you is screaming to do something, anything. But here’s the kicker: the more we resist being stuck, the more stuck we get. It’s like trying to swim against the current. Sure, you might make some progress, but at what cost? Exhaustion, frustration, and, ultimately, the feeling that no matter what you do, you’re not getting anywhere.

I can hear you now: “Connie, I can’t just float through life. Success doesn’t come from sitting still.” And I get it. We’re conditioned to believe that if we’re not hustling, grinding, or pushing against every obstacle, we’re failing. But what if the current knows something we don’t? What if, instead of fighting it, we just allowed ourselves to go with the flow?

For years, I wrestled with the current—life’s challenges, my own expectations, everything. And where did that get me? Tired. Frustrated. Still stuck. It wasn’t until I finally surrendered—let myself drift with the current—that things started to shift.

When you let go, you make space for clarity. Instead of forcing answers or making desperate decisions, you give yourself permission to receive. Think of it like floating down a river. You could flail your arms, trying to steer your way through, but wouldn’t it be easier to let the current carry you? You’re still moving, but with far less effort and a lot more grace.

Here’s the truth: being stuck isn’t a punishment. It’s a message. It’s life’s way of telling you to stop pushing so hard, to breathe, to trust. You can’t force what isn’t ready. You can’t rush a breakthrough. Sometimes, the current slows down because it’s giving you time to reflect, to heal, to realign. Fighting that only prolongs the process.

For me, releasing resistance started with accepting that I didn’t have all the answers. And that was okay. I learned to be comfortable with not knowing the next step, trusting that it would reveal itself when the time was right. I stopped measuring my progress by how fast I was moving and started focusing on how I felt in the stillness. And that’s when things began to fall into place.

When you stop resisting, you start noticing. The opportunities, the insights—they’ve been there the whole time, just waiting for you to stop thrashing around and kicking up mud. The path becomes clearer, not because you forced it, but because you allowed the dust to settle. The current takes you to where you need to be, not necessarily where you thought you should be.

So, if you’re feeling stuck, here’s my advice: stop resisting. Let yourself float. Flow with what’s happening, instead of forcing what isn’t. Release the need to control every detail, and trust that life is guiding you to exactly where you’re meant to be. Resistance only creates chaos. Release brings peace.

I know it’s uncomfortable. I know it feels counterintuitive. But when you finally allow yourself to go with the current, you’ll realize that what you’ve been seeking has been waiting for you all along—just a little further downstream, in the quiet space of surrender.

Next steps:

1. Take a moment to examine yourself. What can you physically let go of to declutter your space?
2. What can you energetically release so that you can make room for fresh energy?