Hey, They Call Me Connie…

Let’s get real – we all have that drawer (or maybe even a whole room) filled with things we don’t need but can’t seem to part with. You know the stuff I’m talking about: old birthday cards from people you don’t talk to anymore, clothes you’ll totally fit into again someday, and those random cords whose purpose remains a mystery. But decluttering isn’t just about clearing out physical stuff – it’s about letting go of the emotional baggage that comes with it.

Yep, we’re talking about people, places, and things. Decluttering is like a spa day for your soul, but way cheaper and a lot more productive. And guess what? It’s scientifically proven to make you feel better. According to a study by the Princeton Neuroscience Institute, clutter actually makes it harder for your brain to focus and process information. So, if your home (and your life) is starting to feel like a garage sale that never ends, it’s time to declutter and detox – mentally and emotionally.

Here’s how to do it in 3 simple, semi-painless steps.

1. Out with the Old (aka Why Are You Still Holding Onto That?)

Let’s start with the obvious: you need to get rid of stuff. I know it sounds harsh, but ask yourself this: do you really need that sweater from your high school ex, or are you just holding onto the past? Spoiler alert: it’s the past. And the past doesn’t fit into your closet (literally or metaphorically).

It’s time to Marie Kondo your life – and I’m not just talking about what’s in your drawers. Decluttering is also about cutting ties with those emotional anchors that drag us down. Whether it’s an old friend you’ve outgrown or a place you can’t quite leave behind, letting go frees up space for new connections and opportunities. Research has shown that letting go of toxic relationships can lead to better mental health and even a longer life (seriously!). According to a study published in The Journals of Gerontology, people who release negative relationships tend to live healthier, happier lives.

Step 1 action: Go through your stuff. If it doesn’t serve a purpose or make you feel good, let it go. If it’s tied to someone you no longer speak to or a phase of life you’ve outgrown, toss it. It’s not just clutter – it’s emotional baggage.

2. Say Goodbye to Guilt (and People Who Drain Your Energy)

You know that feeling when you finally clean out a closet and it feels like you’ve taken a 10-pound weight off your shoulders? Imagine that feeling, but it’s your whole life. Letting go of things can be tough – mostly because of guilt. “What if I need this later?” or “But they were so nice once upon a time!” Sure, but that was three years ago, and now they only text when they need something.

Clearing out not only your physical space but also your mental space means ditching the people who no longer serve a purpose in your life. And yes, that might sound brutal, but when was the last time you felt good after spending time with certain people? Toxic relationships, whether it’s a one-sided friendship or someone who thrives on negativity, can clutter your emotional space just like that pile of unopened mail on your counter.

Step 2 action: Declutter your social circle. Distance yourself from people who drain you, and surround yourself with those who uplift and support you. Your sanity will thank you.

3. Make Room for What Matters (and What Sparks Joy, Obviously)

Now that you’ve tossed the junk and said goodbye to those draining relationships, it’s time to make room for what really matters. When you clear out the old, you create space for new opportunities – and yes, that includes people, places, and things that genuinely spark joy (thanks, Marie). The beauty of decluttering isn’t just about what you lose, but what you gain.

Fun fact: 79% of people report feeling more relaxed and productive in a decluttered home, according to a survey conducted by the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals. And let’s not forget the emotional benefits: decluttering your life helps you focus on the present, giving you more energy for the people and activities that really matter.

Step 3 action: Be intentional about what you bring into your space and your life. Whether it’s new friendships, hobbies, or simply an uncluttered living room, focus on what brings you happiness and peace.

Here’s the thing: decluttering isn’t just about tidying up your space – it’s about freeing your mind, heart, and soul from all the things weighing you down. When you let go of the physical and emotional junk, you open yourself up to a life filled with more clarity, more peace, and a whole lot more joy.

So, whether it’s an old pair of jeans or that toxic friend, it’s time to let it go. Trust me – the best part of decluttering isn’t what you lose; it’s what you gain.

Now, go grab that garbage bag and start tossing! (And if you need moral support, just know I’m right there with you, trashing my own questionable life choices – starting with that drawer full of random mystery chargers.)